Women's Corner: It is not a matter of 'Beauty' only

YOU know trying to understand men when it comes to cheating is like trying to solve an intricate Chinese puzzle when you cannot read it. I have realised that women always suspect that he is cheating because he has found a beautiful woman.

But still, even those naturally beautiful ones or those who go for plastic surgery or face uplift still catch their husbands cheating on them, why? As often as it happens, it is always difficult to understand or come to terms why a man will cheat, especially on a very beautiful woman he has.

After speaking to several of my male friends about this mind boggling topic, I have decided to share some of the reasons they gave as to why most men cheat on their beautiful ones; some of them are shocking and daring, brace yourselves.

If you think you are beautiful and the basic assumption is that your man will be faithful and glued to you alone, then you are up for a big shock. Being exceptionally beautiful does not guarantee faithfulness in the world of men.

You know sisters, being physically beautiful will attract men, but then it takes more than that to keep them to yourself only, for your beauty evokes and conjures sexual connotations, which barely keep men home, as we know it.

If a man is cheating on his beautiful woman, then it is one or more of those things which usually women take for granted. Am not justifying men's unjust actions but its good to bear in mind that you do not want to contribute to the collapse of your marriage.

It is true that men love to be with beautiful women, especially those who know how to project glamour and prettiness all the time. However, men quickly get bored with looks and begin to look beyond the physical appearance.

Faithfulness hardly comes from physical attraction as emotional connection is needed to seal a deal on faithfulness. Make your man enjoy your company!
When a woman is only good to be showcased around in beauty, men begin to look out for the important things that make up a loving relationship. For instance, a man wants to be taken care of and if a beautiful woman won't bend over to get that done, he will surely look around for where he can find that.

Also, no matter how rich a man is, he will love to see his woman do something with her life. So if a beautiful woman has nothing important going on in her, apart from watching TV shows, shopping and painting nails, the man is set to look for the 'woman inspiration' somewhere. Get something to do with your life and do not be what has been labeled as a 'MM' abbreviation for MARRY and MAINTAIN.

A beautiful face and body will not be able to get a man to stay faithful. Sisters, do not be caught relaxing on your laurels, now that you have won his heart you have to strive to keep him yours alone.

Thus the late great muso Marshall Munhmumwe in his popular track Rudo imoto sang "rudo imoto runoto kchidzirwa vana amai…" which loosely translates to, love is fire you have to keep burning.

Have you ever wondered why that man who has such a beautiful partner won't stop bothering and coming back to you? You may think she is far beautiful than you and that is probably an undisputable fact. But she may be ugly like hell inside and exuding with a dull predictable personality.

The funny thing is that when it comes to beauty, men are confused one minute they want the woman who looks like a model "trophy wife". The one they can show around to friends and walk around holding her hands while every other man gets jealous. The next minute when they are mature, they are looking for the inside beauty, which is the calmness, kindness, support, understanding, softness and love. At this stage, they start to move back and forth between the not so beautiful woman and their beautiful partner.

Besides all the mentioned things, there is one more vital thing which can not be left unmentioned as it is the only thing which you did not get from your loving parents home and that is the forbidden fruit!

There are some women out there that know how to really rock a man's boat. Being beautiful does not in any way mean you are a boat rocker in bed. For a woman to deliver a toe curling experience, she must be a person who pays attention to details and responses. Be a lady on the streets and a freak on the bed.

If the woman is good in bed, then the man will keep coming back. No matter how beautiful a woman is, if the man is not getting the satisfaction he deserves then he will sneak to get what he is missing from home. Be that kind of woman who is ready to make improvements!

Sisters, next time while you are busy trying to make yourself look attractive, do not forget to also look for information on what to do and change your bedroom life and being a loving partner.

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